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Taming Gorillas

Being Brave with Big Brutes How do you handle people who have an overlarge ego and a virtually insatiable hunger for status and attention? Managing people or groups of people with some 'challenging individuals' can be tricky, especially if you are in charge of a meeting or a project. Thus you will want to keep the balance and grant everyone their fair share of sunlight. In consulting I learned a funny but accurate term for these types of people: the 'silverback'. Typically silverbacks have a tendency to underline strong convictions with vigorous statements even in case their position is not firmly backed by facts or evidence. Sadly these people can sometimes intimidate peers who don't have an overlarge ego or don't have any bias to bold and brazen behaviour. Here are five ways I found effective to deal with 'silver backs' to everybody's advantage: 1. Avoid confrontation - Don't be confrontational with silver backs. In fact, don't ever be con...

Happiness And Anxiety

Just A Feeling Despite all the drawbacks caused by the pandemic I have to admit that ever since the kids were born I have been feeling more happy in general. To set the stakes even higher, I have already been pretty damned happy ever since I met my wife several years earlier. Maybe it is because the kids fill me with hope that all is good and is steadily improving. Also they give a whole new purpose to everything in my life. I have only really had a few significant stretches where I felt so beaten down or lethargic, that I had issues to motivate myself. There were only three significant times I was struggling with my decisions and had serious doubts that I made the right choices.  Freaking Out In The Barracks The first time was in 1998, when I signed a contract as a contract soldier for 12 years. During my first couple of days with the military the magnitude of my decision sank with the utmost brutality. It totally freaked me out. I spent the first night in some spartan barracks in...

Lessons Learned from Ninjago

Masters of the Multiverse One of the highest privileges in life is to relive childhood with your own offspring. The experience of being a parent is by far the most intense and life changing transformation that any person might go through. Being accountable not only for your own, but also for another person's actions and life is a tremendous responsibility. As overwhelming as this might sound, there are definitely also some perks to the job: you get to watch Ninjago. As a kid I was seriously into Lego. Short disclaimer: I am -sadly- not affiliated with Lego in any way. The following statements regarding Lego are only my own opinion and not advice of any kind. It's perfectly ok if you're not the Lego type of person. A life without Lego is entirely ok, though meaningless ;-) Lego is just cool. My brothers and I used to throw together all the different sets and construct entirely new structures. At one point we rebuild robots from Transformers that could change into different m...